How many decisions do you think you made today?
At a statewide counselors’ conference earlier this year, I attended a session (wearing my infant) where our icebreaker was to write out every decision we had made just in the previous 15 minutes. I left the room to nurse my sleepy baby and by the time I returned, the participants were already deeply engrossed in their lists. The point of the exercise was to show us just how many small decisions we make, all day, every day. It’s no wonder that our decision-making ability is finite and by the end of the day, we’re exhausted by all the small decisions that brought us to that point.
Those were just minor, everyday decisions. Now ask yourself – when was the last time you truly stopped and listened before moving forward with a big decision or action?
This is where we can use a pause. You might pause to pray, to think, to decide, to listen, to discern, to breathe, to react, to consider, and to protect your time.
If you’re like me, the habit of pause might not be one you practice often enough.
With this space, I’ll help you create a habit of pausing in every small, great, and wild moment that life brings. Pausing allows us time to savor the precious fleeting moments of life – the seasons, the senses, the memories that happen in the white space – if we just allow ourselves to stop long enough to notice them, to be aware of them, and to name them when they’re happening.
Pausing also affords us time to consider our next best steps in whatever decisions we face. It reminds us to catch our breath, pray, and truly listen for direction. It keeps us from speaking and acting out of haste, which can lead to regret and miscommunication. We are so impressionable, and without taking the time to pause and truly listen for our own unique calling, we run the risk of being influenced by what others are doing around us.
I hope that you will join with me as I offer healthy moments for you to pause in whatever season you might be facing. Leave a comment below to share how or when you use pauses in your own decision-making processes.
In the meantime, I’ll hope you’ll join me over on Instagram @tendingwild.
TEND | to care for, inclined to be, to move, direct, or develop one’s course in a particular direction.