Raise your hand if you suffer from decision fatigue.
Guilty over here.
And because I cannot always trust myself to make decisions confidently, I put them off. I procrastinate and then second-guess my original choice or hold out in case something better comes along. It’s the reason that despite a better-than-perfect GPA in grade school, I always dreaded taking multiple choice tests, always narrowing my options down to two and then talking myself out of the correct answer by overanalyzing the choices.
One Sunday in early April, my husband and I found ourselves in the left lane on the interstate behind a white Honda Accord whose right turn signal had been on for quite awhile. Jerry Seinfeld called a similar situation the “eventual left.” I checked our blind spot – nothing was even coming. And yet the Accord remained firmly planted in its spot in front of us. When it finally decided to make a move, the Kia Sorento in front of it got over at the exact same moment, and the Accord quickly retreated to its original position.
Indecision and second-guessing can literally drive us to doubt our own ability to make decisions. We wonder which lane will get us there faster (Office Space, anyone?) or more successfully. We waffle between our different choices, even if both are good, even if both will still lead us forward, when really we just need to pause.
We lose ground in the waffling, but never in the pause.
A pause offers us the chance to pray, listen, and bring our indecisions and uncertainty to God, the only true voice of clarity. And once He gives us clear indication, we can put our signal on and go confidently in that direction, not paralyzing ourselves in questioning God’s call.
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. (James 1:5-6, NIV)
Friends, let us pause in those moments when we are unsure, before we make our decisions public, in prayerful obedience, and move forward only when we know that we are aligning ourselves with God’s course for us.
Today, consider your own tendencies. Do you waffle in indecision and second-guessing, do you make bold signals even at the expense of acting prematurely, or do you just slow down to pause, seeking God for His direction?
I’d love to hear your reflections in the comments below.